If life gives you lemons, make lemonade.
It's one of the most important lessons we can ever learn.
I'll never forget my Cousin Mickey with whom I exchanged emails for a number of years. He told me that he thanked G-d every morning when he woke up. I told him that it's a Jewish custom. There's a prayer to be said as we awake.
Modeh Ani Le’fanechaMost people probably couldn't understand why Mickey loved waking up every morning. He had CP Cerebral Palsy and spent most of his life in a home for the handicapped. I doubt if it was the sort of life most would wish for. That is unless you couldn't get around independently in your old wheelchair, or couldn't talk or hear or tell jokes. Because of his great personality, Micky had a lot of friends. The staff at the place where he spent his final decade plus would tell me that he was the most popular person there. I had no doubt.
Melech Chai V ’Kayam,
Shehechezarta Bi Nish’mati B ’Chem’lah
"I Gratefully Thank You,
living and eternal King,
for You have returned my soul within me with compassion -
abundant is your faithfulness!”
I only knew Mickey the last few years of his life. I hope I've managed to internalize his lessons. It's so easy, too easy to just kvetch and complain and give up. I must admit that at times I do that. I have trouble shaking off insults and unpleasant things that happen. Sometimes it takes me days to calm down. That's not good, not at all.